Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Team work


Enjoying the day
When a couple gets married there are many ways their unity is emphasized. Rings are exchanged, a marriage book is signed (here in Belgium and the Netherlands), and of course we are reminded by God in His word that we are one, no longer two, but complete, whole, in Christ Jesus. Each couple then has to go on and realize the reality of this oneness.  Which side of the closet is used by whom, and on which side of the bed do you sleep? Who does the cooking? The cleaning? When children come, who trains them and in what?
Before we arrived in Belgium, we had already discovered the various ways that we complemented each other’s strengths. Still, it is always exciting to see it in practice. Throughout the years that our boys were growing up, our tasks were more varied. Shirley is a fantastic manager, making sure that we always have enough with whatever we have at the time, providing for a place that we as a family and the church family can always feel at home.  She is a teacher and example for her children, for her neighbors and for church members – always ready to help. I was more active preaching, teaching, visibly leading.
When we worked with a week of summer camp, I would lead and/or teach and Shirley would take care of the kitchen. We always knew we could depend on one another doing our jobs. And we were able to leave the work for that area to the other member of the team.
Now that both Stephan and Sean are out of the house, we have more time to work together in our outreach and teaching. Recently we have begun a series of studies with the members from the book of Mark. We are not only challenging ourselves as body members to be changed by our lives following Jesus, we are also training in learning how we can help others do the same.  How do you help people see who Jesus is in the Bible and in your life?
Every two or three weeks we are meeting with at least three different groups in the congregation, reading, sharing, challenging, encouraging. It is exciting to see how God is changing the various members, changing us. It is exciting to be doing this together. I am so thankful for this team, that we are a team together.

Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Extreme makeover at Camp


Everyone got into the work
Originally uploaded by sraabs.
Down at Ardennen Bijbelkamp we moved on to the next phase of our Extreme Makeover. In Spring 2012 a new hall will be built where the old hall used to stand (we tore that down in phase 1). But before that can happen, we needed to remove the old foundation.
My back definitely did NOT enjoy this work (at least not the next day), but it was exciting to see so many people working together to get this done. As I talked about with some of the little guys, we all can use our strengths. Some guys can swing heavy hammers, some guys can't. But we can all help.
It is great to be part of a body that can work together!

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Our 90-year-old teenager


This past week we celebrated Willemien’s 90th birthday. We had a great time making her day especially special. The smile she usually graces us all with was even brighter that day.
I may have mentioned it before, but Willemien has pretty much ruined my idea of what “old” is. She had two new knees put in a few years back and was recovered and back to full steam within 3 weeks – this was after she was 85. She walks the dog twice a day. Although she has someone come in to help clean once a week, she still lives at home alone and takes care of herself. So when I meet someone who is, say 78, I think, “Ah, that’s a young’un.”
Willemien came to know Jesus back about the time we started working in Maastricht. She and her husband, Cor, had been searching for truth and God for 40 years (at that time). God brought us together and we have never looked back. So, technically, Willemien is about 16 years old in her faith life. And she is a great teenager. She loves mixing with all ages, is willing to listen, and shares her stories as well. She is a true prayer warrior in the church and always willing to learn.
Join with us in thanking God for His rich blessings in Willemien’s life and through Willemien’s life to so many around her. Willemien has no other family than her Christian family, but what a great family that is!
Willemien and Josephine celebrating together 

Friday, October 21, 2011

Now that's fellowship!

Thanks to Luk for the photo
Once again, members from the various congregations around Belgium and the Netherlands gathered for some fun fellowship. It is moments like these that thrill me about God's family. I learned long ago from my first mentor, Ron Carter, that Christians are the best one's to know how to really have fun. And the COPA Benelux is a good example. 
Usually the congregation in Maastricht brings a team as well - as a matter of fact, we have won the FUN cup twice (in the 4 years the competition has existed), but it's not about the winning (is it?). But this year we had several members not able to make it, so Scott and Michael sought a team that might need some extra players. We hooked up with the guys and gals from Brussels for their PRO team ... and look what happened! 
Not that our presence was that important to the win, but we sure had fun! And to be able to meet with brothers and sisters, having conversations in English, Dutch or French, making plans for other activities in the year, encouraging one another with struggles - it is a great time to be together. Luk Brazle's lesson on the body and finding our place was an encouragement for our spiritual lives. 
I am glad that Christians understand that something like this day is helpful, encouraging, beneficial and fun! I think of the years of camp in Colorado, California, Nebraska or Iowa, or of biking in the Tour de Togo in Minnesota (haven't made it yet, but I will), or so many other activities. Getting to know one another, encouraging each other, learning how to deal with winning and losing, showing non-Christian friends how to really have fun ... that is what a day like this is all about.

Monday, September 12, 2011

It is time

We are dealing with some basic realities, in our home life and in our work. Reality: there always comes a time of doing after the time of planning and preparation.

At the end of August, after several official years of planning (and several more unofficial years), our Bible camp site finally got official permission to begin with the renovation works that we have been planning for so long. We want so much to be able to make better use of the facilities we have in the Ardennes. If all goes as planned and as God wills, we will have a new meeting hall in the Spring and everything will be ready next summer to welcome our summer campers.

Push! But before that could happen, the old hall needed to be taken care of - torn down. The old fiberglass roof which rained on the inside just wasn't getting the job done. When it rained, the holes in the roof leaked. When it wasn't raining, the moisture would often condense on the roof and rain down anyway. The windows on one side of the hall came from a different era. We had double glass on one side of the hall and plexiglass - actually simply plastic on wooden frames - on the other side. A lot of hard and loving labor went into making this hall. Years of great lessons and fellowship in what the various churches created here for each other. But now it was time to move on.
So we did. It was time. You can see some of the pictures (and maybe you already have) as well as a video showing some of the fun in getting the demolition done. It was a bittersweet labor of love. But we are looking forward to what will take its place and how we will be able to enjoy that.

At home, we have enjoyed watching Sean grow up. He has shown interest in so many things. His first plan was to be a professional football (soccer) player - and he was very adamant that he would do it! And he still enjoys playing, but that is not where his interest lies. Then he talked about having his own business, but in the end - somewhat out of the blue, though not completely - he is moving over to Brussels to study film.
In the last months we have prepared by finding out about the metro and the train (he will come home each weekend with the train and will use the metro to get around Brussels), about what he needs for school, visiting Brussels, setting up his room (he will be staying with good friends Bill and DeeDee Bundy) and getting things ready back at home. Sean still plans on working each Saturday and rehearsing or performing with his band as well.
Brussels - what a mix!
But there comes a time when it will start. And today it was time. On Sean's birthday (for all his life until now he always spent his birthday at school - it is the first day of school here) we went to Brussels with most of his things. Today we took the last bits and left him behind there, with advice and admiration, our prayers and admonitions. This week he will get used to living in Brussels before he really starts classes next week.

We are so thankful for the things that God allows us to see in this life - the work that He is completing in so many people. We are thankful that we can be part of that and will keep planning and doing each day, because it IS time.


Wednesday, August 31, 2011

This old house


This house is full of sounds. Every door has its own special creak. And don’t get me started on some of the floors! When the boys were younger I thought that this was perfect – no sneaking around without us knowing. If their bedroom door opened, I knew it, even in my sleep.
After years of practice, I know how to get around most of these sounds (and so, probably do the boys), so when I woke up early in the morning I made an effort to be quiet on my visit down the hall for a call of nature. But for a moment … for a moment I was surprised at Sean’s open door. Even in the dark and without my glasses I could see that he wasn’t in his room, he wasn’t in his bed. Then I remembered that he was spending the night at his friend’s house.
None of this changed the sudden feeling in my heart – a feeling of exhilaration, of worry, of change. This will soon be a regular scene. Last night we got to talk again to Stephan as he is starting his fourth year at Harding. And Sean is not yet gone to his study in Brussels, but it won’t be long. He’ll be home on the weekends, but there will be less creaking around the house.
Exciting – we are so thrilled for the things the guys are learning, the people they are meeting and the opportunities in their lives. Change is different. We have to adapt. Things will not be the same. But they will be good – of that I am sure.  Exhilarating, a bit scary, but full of expectation.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Camp is where it's at

At the Love Tree For the last four weeks young and old have taken advantage of Ardennen Bijbelkamp. We are so thankful that we have this facility and can encourage one another here. Each camp week (there are four) are organized and run by various members from various congregations working together to serve the youth and  anyone interested in learning more about God during such a great week. We have a week for "jongeren" (15 and older), for "Benjaminen" (8-11 yr-olds), "Tieners" (12-14 yr-olds) and a "Gezinskamp" for families or anyone who wants to come.

Jongerenkamp (click on the photo here to see more pictures) had the theme of "Serving". (You can see more complete compilation here on Luk Brazle's site.) It was exciting to discover together the various ways that we can serve one another and to dream about how we are going to put this into practice after camp. During the week we helped people in the village, shared candy during "snoepwinkel" (where you can buy chocoalte, chips and cola) by buying for someone else instead of yourself, and of course enjoyed "corvee" (kitchen duty).

The Benjamins learned about the gospel of Luke. Karla Verheijen worked with her father and Annette and Mainor Boalanos from the church in Haarlem to teach 23 kids during this week. This was a full week! There were also good helpers among the young people.

The teens learned all about the parables of Jesus. The members from Rotselaar pretty much took care of the organization of this camp. Although they had fewer campers, they enjoyed their time learning together immensely. Check out the photo's on Daniel's site by clicking here.


The last week of camp, Family camp, was a rainy week. While much of the world has been groaning under heat and drought, much of northern Europe hasn't seen very much of summer. But every moment that the sun shines, or that it is simply dry, we rejoice and enjoy. So the theme of Salt and Light was appropriate for our time together as well. How can we make an impact on our world, bring the goodness of God to where we are?
Kamp!
Each day brought a different teacher. I was blessed to teach on the first day and enjoy all of the speakers throughout the week. Family week is always a great mix of young and old, married and single - even different languages sometimes (although we do the lessons in Dutch). It is great to see how God is helping us to grow, to have this time to encourage one another, to know, as Peter says in 1 Peter 5, that our experiences are shared by our brothers and sisters around the world. Check out some of the pictures by clicking on the photo.

We are so thankful for these opportunities because we see how these short weeks, rainy or not, bless us. Tey give us challenges to take us into the rest of the year. They give us moments of friendship so that we know we are not alone. They bring new relationships into our lives that strengthen and challenge us the rest of our lives. Thank you, Lord, for Bible Camp!

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Catch me if you can

I need to learn to stop for a minute and continue on afterwards at full speed. Some things happen all at once and you have to get it written down before it is too late. Here are some of the things that passed by very quickly after my last post:

The graduate!
Sean graduated from high school on June 28. We are so thankful for his daily effort doing his best. He is excited at the moment to enjoy the summer before starting a new chapter in his life in the Fall.
In September Sean will be attending Narafi (www.narafi.be), a film and photography school in Brussels. We are also thankful and grateful that he will be able to stay with Bill and DeeDee Bundy while he is there this year. He is still planning on being home in the weekends (“So don’t get any ideas about my room,” he says.)

Vieny Wanga’s new life!
Vieny is the daughter of our sister in Christ, Shadira. Vieny has been living the past year in Curacao with her grandmother (who was baptized there this year as well), but has grown up with us here in Maastricht for the last 10 years. In those years she has attended youth weekends, Bible camp and had plenty of questions. Many of you have been praying for her as well.
On Thursday, July 14, she and Scott had made an appointment to discuss her growth and any questions she was struggling with in her faith. When Scott arrived, Vieny said, “I don’t know why I am questioning. I want proof, but God has shown me all I need to know. I know He loves me and has done everything for me. I know that I want to give my life to Him.” So that afternoon, Vieny put her Lord on in baptism, dying to her old life, rising in new life through faith in Jesus Christ!

Bible Camp
That same weekend Scott and Sean headed down to “Jongerenkamp” (a week of Bible camp for 15 years and older). Scott was teaching on “Service”. It was a gray-weather week, but a wonderful time of learning how to serve one another and dreaming of how we can serve after returning home. It was exciting to have several from the congregation in Maastricht there, learning from each other and encouraging one another. Check out some of the pictures on our site or here.

Mr. and Mrs. Fenny
At the end of camp, several of the campers and helpers, all of whom were also part of the congregation in Maastricht, headed back to Maastricht to share in the marriage of Shadira and Farley. Some of us sang, some helped, others spoke – and all of us enjoyed sharing this new life together. We are so thankful for the love that God teaches us. The congregation looks forward to the example that Shadira and Farley already are and will continue to be. In the coming year they are planning on moving to Curacao to be with Shadira’s girls.

Yoo hoo!In the meantime
We also headed down to Paris for a day with Sean and our interns. Very quick, but a wonderful time as family. You can see some of the pictures over on our photo site, but be assured, the memories made were even better. 


We also have been helping a young couple learn about ministry – as best we can. Shane and Rachel Morr have been with us for 5 of the last 8 weeks, evangelizing in Maastricht, meeting the members, participating in Bible studies and singing evenings, helping out wherever they could. We enjoyed our time with them immensely and hope that they were able to learn a bit from us what it means to be servants in this way. They headed back home this week. They are also friends of Stephan, so it is good to have that link connecting us as well.

Sean has played several times with his band – the playing great, the results (some were competitions) sometimes disappointing, but all exciting for us as parents. He hopes to continue the band in the Fall, combining school, work and playing in the weekends. Quite a challenge. 

Okay, take a breath. I’ll try to get up little bits a bit quicker in the future. Thanks for stopping by. It is always good to talk with you. And praise God for all that He is able to do in so many ways!

Friday, June 24, 2011

New life for Farley!














Farley has been visiting our services, participating in the weekly Bible studies and asking plenty of questions for a while. He and our sister in Christ, Shadira, are planning to wed next month. He has a lot on his mind and likes to make his life decisions certain. And he had a lot of questions about a life in Christ. But there are some things you just need to do.

We had talked about how giving your life to Christ is so much like a marriage. If you love the other, you want to belong completely to them. Jesus has already shown us that He has given everything so that we can be with him. Farley was already to the point that he knew he wanted to belong completely to Shadira, to give his life to become one with her. So when we talked about life in Christ in these terms, he understood that it was about the love he had for Jesus and making the decision - yes or no.

He had talked about being baptized in the sea. Both he and Shadira are from Curaçao. The ocean is part of their life - even if much of their lives have been in the rainy, hills of the Netherlands. But we also wanted to be able to share his birth with the brothers and sisters of Maastricht. So when someone said, "Why not this afternoon at the barbecue? We'll all be there," his response was, "Yeah, why not? Let's do it!"

A spatter of rain couldn't ruin the fellowship at the barbecue and definitely couldn't dampen Farley's spirits in giving his life to "my Lord and redeemer!" A swimming pool, some water and, most importantly, a family of believers and the blood of Jesus made for a wonderful afternoon of praising God for new life! Welcome Farley!

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Let's do it!

2e Pinksterdag 2011 Groep in Den Haag
Photo thanks to Luk Brazle

Monday, June 13 was the annual Spring fellowship of the Dutch-speaking churches in Belgium and the Netherlands. held in The Hague. This is always an opportunity to meet and encourage one another through word and song.  The theme this year was based on the Acts of the Apostles – how can we “act”-  do and live as christians, not simply say that we are.
The lesson brought by Ruud Verheijen encouraged all to make their faith active, to allow the word of the Lord to live in their lives in reality. This was followed by a quiz on the book of Acts. Teams formed loosely from the congregations “competed” against one another on their knowledge of the the truths in Acts, the things we could learn from those first Christians. And there was still plenty to learn, but everyone seemed ready to try. A jury made up of Ruud Verheijen, Roy Davison and Jim Krumrei not only made sure that difficult questions were answered correctly, they also gave important background information.  This was a fun and informative way to dig into the word of God.
To encourage all to understand the concept of a living body, tasks for the day were spread out among members from the various congregations. Brothers from 5 different congregations led the group in song and prayer. Helpers from other congregations made sure the youngest children were cared for during the quiz. And everyone brought their own lunch – and more (there were about 80 people from 8 different congregations present). This cooperation was exciting to see. When we remember whose children we are, when we are challenged to live as such, we do just that!
There was more than enough food for all present. There were more than enough helpers to set up and clean up afterwards. There was an abundance of activity from a real body on that day. We are so thankful  for how God can work through us and look forward to continuing to be active as His body wherever we go.

See another report of the day here

Friday, June 10, 2011

Thank you!


Our car
Originally uploaded by sraabs.
You heard us call for help and you responded! Thank you so much for being willing to help us out financially with a car. I talked a little bit about the joys of struggle while looking for a car - this is the one we found.
Sean likes the tinted windows along the back since he was convinced that the sun always had it in for him and somehow only shone through his window. Now he is protected.
This car has plenty of space - even though it is technically a smaller car than the one we had. I have already put bikes in it, helped people move, and taken things to the dump. The motor is set to go since we changed the timing belt this past week - ready for another 150,000 kilometers.
Thank you again for your willingness to sacrifice, to help, to share. It is so exciting to experience these things in the family of the Lord!

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

So…. Who is He listening to anyway?

Today we got some more rain … and I was thankful. We have been going through quite a dry spell here in Belgium. At one point they were telling us that we would need to have 14 straight days of rain in order to get to where we should be. Imagine Belgium without rain! So we have been praying for rain.

But many of my friends and family have been praying that rain, snow, storms and weather would cease. Tornados and flooding have caused terrible troubles in too many places. And so we have been praying with our friends and brothers and sisters in other countries.

But who is God listening to? What is best: rain or drought? And this is “simply” weather. What about when someone is sick and/or dying? When I am praying for my son’s safety and he is praying to have good fun? Does God hear me more than you? To whom does He listen?

For me the question has been more – what do I ask. I know He is listening to me – even the most inane things I might say or think. He cares about all of that. I know because Jesus told us so. And Jesus shows me what is important, how to ask, what to see as most important. Jesus asked for what he wanted, but he left all in the Father’s hands. “Not my will, but yours be done.”

Paul, too struggled with what he desired. Wouldn’t it be better to leave this life and go Home? But there is still so much to be done! (see Philippians 1:21-24). Perhaps instead of praying for rain, I should pray for strength to help those struggling with drought.

We are missing the rain, so I will continue to ask my wonderful Father for rain – as I will continue to ask for strength. And when the rain comes, I will remember to give thanks (and not complain about how wet it is!).

Monday, April 18, 2011

Enjoying the struggle

About a month ago our car “died”. There are times when things go wrong with your car that you simply fix them. But there is a moment when the costs outweigh the benefits. We were long past that moment with this car (which had served us well for about 5 years). The motor stopped and it was going to cost more than what the car was worth simply to figure out what was wrong. So we were suddenly car-less.

It’s amazing how much your life is planned around your mobility. We live in a village. There is a supermarket fairly close by. We can walk or bike there. But of course you have to be able to carry what you purchase. Sean still needed to get to school, but we had a bicycle for that. All of Scott’s appointments, however are in Maastricht, which is seven kilometers away. Sunday mornings are then also a challenge.

But challenges can bring out the best in people. Before we had much of a chance to even ask for help, help had been offered on all sides. Brothers and sisters in Christ made sure to pick us up on Sunday mornings. We were offered the use of a car from colleagues in Antwerp. And when the bus schedule didn’t work out, someone was there to get us home. It is so exciting to see the desire to help. It is an immense comfort and encouragement.

For daily tasks we still needed a way to get around and we were pleasantly surprised by the offer of a moped from a friend. He offered the moped, with helmet and a tank of gasoline (and we all know what is happening with the price of gas). Of course a moped brings certain challenges as well, but more about that another time.

In the meantime we also were presented with financial help from various sources close by and far away so that we could purchase another car. Finding the right one is a task in itself, and we were thankful for the help of our brother in Christ, Jan Blaakmeer. Hours of driving around looking at possible cars, hours of scouring the internet and calling in various languages about cars finally resulted in a good find.

When this first began, the day that the car broke down, you wonder what will happen. But, to be honest, I was mostly intrigued to see how God would use this time. We have seen how he takes care of things, how he turns struggles into triumph. And this was a simple, everyday problem. The question was never IF it would be solved, but HOW and what we could learn along the way. It has been wonderful to see God’s hand in all of this. Although it may seem strange to say it, we are thankful for the struggle. James put it this way: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, when you face trials of many kinds.”

Monday, March 21, 2011

Getting into the Acts


The group
Originally uploaded by sraabs.
Last weekend we had a group of young people take over our house (we are so thankful for a house that can be used!) for a youth weekend on the book of Acts. There was a quiz, styled after Jeopardy! (for those of you who are old enough to know the show) and some fun, practical activities.
What was the first church like? What did they find most important? What can we learn from those first followers of Jesus? That is what we wanted to look at - not only in knowledge, but in reality. So we helped each other serve tables, shared, told others what we were doing, studied the apostle's teaching and encouraged one another. We even looked at persecution, although that is something we most definitely do not experience here.
It was a great group and so encouraging to see the young people wanting to learn more. Thank you Lord for using us all in so many ways to show Your love and grace!

(click on the picture for more pictures)

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Welcome!

Welcome our new brother, Rob Kok, to the family of God. Rob is the identical twin brother of our Peter Kok. For years he has been considering his life with God and wondering what he wants to do. He grew up in a strict Dutch Reformed home, but both he and his brother rebelled against this faith, although both have said they never felt they completely left God.

Peter has been part of our family here in Maastricht and in those years Rob’s life continued in the north of the country, closer to the place he grew up. But the brothers have never really been far apart, and it is certainly due to Peter’s life and stuggles, questions and discussion with his brother that Rob thought more and more about giving his life to Jesus. So when he came by recently, while visiting Peter (who lives in our street), it was to talk about if it was possible to be baptized.

It was during the Christmas break. Stephan had gone down to Peter’s house to say hello and Rob was visiting. Rob talked with Stephan about it who suggested that Rob should “just go talk to my dad.” So he did. And this last weekend Rob drove all the way down to us here (about a 3 hour drive) so that he could share his new birth with us and with his brother.

It has always thrilled me to see how the Holy Spirit works in people’s lives. Rob has had many people influence him in this choice to live now totally for Jesus. His brother, the memory of things his father said and did, talks with us during visits, and even Stephan on a simple visit. The Good Shepherd is always out doing all he can to find the lost sheep and get them home. I am so glad that I can be part of that.

Rob’s new life has begun, and it is just a beginning. He lives with a loving wife and has two wonderful sons, but they do not share his faith – are even against it. But I know, and he has experienced, that the Holy Spirit continues to work through people all around us. Thank you Father, for your grace and might, for your love for Rob!

Saturday, February 05, 2011

Where do you go?

Next week we will deal with a great problem, once again. Someone we know, who has been struggling with his life and now knows that he wants Jesus to run things, has asked to be baptized. He wants to give his life completely to Jesus, to die and be born again. We are so thankful for the grace that Jesus continues to show!

This man will come down to our area, since he doesn’t have a congregation where he is. As so many times before, we are looking for some practical ways to deal with his death, burial and resurrection. You see, our building doesn’t have a baptistry. I know that we are not the only ones who deal with this “problem”. I remember seeing pictures of soldiers in the desert, crowds lining up for a muddy pool in India or Africa, and have myself been part of baptizing people in freezing waters.

The where doesn’t matter. As long as you can find water to bury someone in, you are going to be fine. I used to look for deeper waters which were long enough for tall people (the Dutch are some of the tallest people in the world). Then I remember seeing a baptistry in Croatia that was basically a cylinder in which the person being baptized could stand. When he bent his knees, he would sit in the water, which would of course go over his head. This was what some of the first baptistries were like.

Who doesn’t matter either. I mean, who is doing the baptising. The apostle Paul even makes the point that he did not baptise many personally. And further, we are seldom told who does the baptising. It’s just not important.

What matters is the heart of faith of the person who is giving their life to Jesus. What matters is that the family of Christ knows that God is adding to their number that day. What matters is that we understand that the angels are rejoicing – and that we will do so as well with this new brother or sister.

So on Saturday we will look for a place to bury this man’s sins and welcome his new creation into the body that is Christ’s. We have a blow-up pool which we could fill in our kitchen/livingroom. We could go to a local lake. We have friends who have an outdoor swimming pool. The one thing we do not lack in Belgium is plenty of water! So, no matter what, we will rejoice!

What kind of baptisms have you seen?

Monday, January 10, 2011

Shirley's surprise


Shirley's surprise
Originally uploaded by sraabs.
In Belgium turning 50 is a big deal. Usually you invite the neighbors (your whole street), any colleagues you have, perhaps the parents of your children's friends and of course all family and any friends. Food and rink must be arranged for all, as well as music and entertainment of some sort. This usually means that some venue must be arranged to hold the party.

A life-size doll of an grey woman is placed outside your door (if you are a woman). This is "Sarah", because you have "seen Sarah". This comes of course from the saying of Jesus (although most people here are not aware of these origins) that he was before Abraham. His listeners then say, "You are not even 50 and you say you have seen Abraham." Next to the doll is usually some sort of poem about the life of the woman, with funny anecdotes.

Shirley was not looking forward to any of this. But she also knew that it would not be polite to just let everything pass unnoticed. So we planned a day with the church after worship on the Sunday following her birthday (we were in Antwerp at a Listen Up! concert on her birthday). But she did not know that Scott was already planning a secret party.

Thanks to so many of you who helped make this a special time for her as well. Snowfall prevented several from making it, and kilometers prevented others. But you were still al there - so many of you sent memories of your time with Shirley. They were bundled and presented that evening and she has continued reading them in the days since then.

This year (2011) Shirley will be 50 almost the whole year. She may have shivered a bit at the sound of the number, but she weathered the party that she feared (even enjoyed it) and is enjoying each day - as she always has.